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  • Duff ’n Stuff | Please look up from that screen

    Duff ’n Stuff | Please look up from that screen

    BY PATRICIA DUFF
    May 30, 2014

    My 17-year-old son doesn’t understand why I have to disconnect the Wi-Fi in our house daily, why we have to literally cut him off from the Internet. He thinks that we should let him use his laptop, X-Box, etc. without limits. If we did, I’m sure he would stay in his room continuously with his computer and might only come out for school, eating and to shower. He sees no reason why we should be alarmed by this scenario.

    Image created at www.behance.net.
    Illustration Artwork for Computer Arts Project mag / issue 121 – March 2009 / The Art of Videogames, Behance. From the portfolio of Seb NIARK1 FERAUT.

    I am alarmed.

    I’m caught in this technology trap. What happened? When I prepared myself for parenthood, I never dreamed I would have to deal with these seemingly impossible issues of how to keep my children safe from the global internet community; from the insidious addiction of technological instruments; from a dangerously sedentary lifestyle; from living your life with your face looking down at a screen; from a teenager-hood devoid of meeting your friends at that spot in the woods, or at the lake or the local cafe for face-to-face conversations; from the fact that Facebook (and the rest) stealthily rob you of the delicious privacy that we all used to have in our teenage years and the blissful ignorance of parents; from noticing the world through your real time eyes and ears instead of through a screen or headphones. Well, I should have realized it sooner, when I noticed that kids don’t really meet in the backyard anymore to play SPUD, Dodge Ball and Freeze Tag. I feel so old.

    When I began parenting, I never considered I would end up here, policing a household connection to the rest of the world. I thought I was doing everything right. I modeled good lifestyle skills; taught my children how to eat well, exercise, engage in conversation with other people, show respect, practice good manners, and how to be curious about the world. We read to the kids every day and evening. We showed them things; we introduced them to music, art, a love of nature and the joy of animals; to fun family vacations and swimming and road trips. They are good kids. They are intelligent and funny. But if I could only get that stupid computer out of my son’s life, it would be better. Where did I go wrong? I made my bed, the voice on my shoulder tells me.

    Damn you Bill Gates and Steve Jobs! Damn you Mark Zuckerberg!

    I know. It’s not the inventors’ fault. We were wrong to allow too much of it and now we’re paying for it. Now we have to play the “heavy” parents. Now we have to consult psychologists who specialize in the “unmotivated teen.” I worry that my wonderful son will end up one of those pathetic, coming-up-on-middle-age guys with a penchant for spending long hours in dark rooms playing video games and getting fat on beer and Cheetos. Help me!!!

    How did this happen? Who told me I could raise people to become well-adjusted adults in this fast-moving culture of strange customs involving devices held in one’s hand and on laps? None of us knew we were going to end up with the generation glued to screens, parents who are charged with defending our young against the succubus that is the Internet? My parents never had this problem. I’m envious of them for this. I know they had their own challenges, that every generation has had to deal with some major cultural changes—but this is different.

    Behance image from www.behance.net.
    Illustration Artwork for Computer Arts Project mag / issue 121 – March 2009 / The Art of Videogames, Behance. From the portfolio of Seb NIARK1 FERAUT.

    I am appalled by the number of people I see in public looking down at a screen while they are out in the world. So many people are missing everything!

    In the end, I know what we’ve done here for Henry has been our best. He lives with a family who loves him and I know he knows that, even if he hates certain rules of the house.

    Let the almighty gods of technology beware—I will defend my young! I will hold up my sword against that great, ensnaring snake-in-the-grass, that Darth Vader of our virtual world, that great unseen succubus (yes, I’ve said it again because it’s the best word for this particular monster), the Internet.

    Patricia Duff is a freelance writer and editor and owner of Patricia Duff Writing Services. 

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  • Duff ’n Stuff | Glorious artists, gratifying process

    Duff ’n Stuff | Glorious artists, gratifying process

    BY PATRICIA DUFF
    March 14, 2014

    Lately I’ve been charged with paying close attention to the work of other artists. I work part-time these days at Rob Schouten Gallery at Greenbank Farm where I spend time talking to patrons about 30 or so fine artists whose works and processes I’ve come to know fairly well. It’s a happy job, selling art. It’s kind of like selling the best spirit of someone else, selling a product that brings joy and beauty into the lives of others. It’s a positive pursuit, and when I sell a piece of art I feel somewhat as if I’ve done a good deed for the day—something that adds to making the world a better place. I know, kind of schmaltzy, but true for me.

    I also continue to write part-time about artists. Currently I am writing a story for the first print edition of WLM about a handful of young artists who grew up on Whidbey Island, all extremely talented and each an inspiration to me as I follow the trajectory of their artistic careers. When I write about artists, I absorb a bit of vicarious satisfaction from knowing that here is still a segment of the population that will go out into the world with music, art, entertainment─all those things that come back to beauty and truth, things that add alacrity and grace to the world. Don’t worry, I tell myself as I turn away from yet another disconcerting story in the news, here are more of the saviors coming up in the world, those who will push back against a culture somewhat overwhelmed by technology, climate-change, poverty, wars and extinction. Here are the positive ones, the “interestings,” the non-cubicled, the beauty-makers. I thank my lucky stars every day for them and those like them.

    All this focus on other artists makes me pine for the days when my life was focused on a purely artistic career. I spent about 12 years after college seriously pursuing a life as a working actor. I miss the days of marginal living, when memorizing scripts, rehearsing late into the evening and pounding the pavement for that next part were the focus of my youthful self. Although I must admit, my memory is selective and romantic, and if I force myself to remember the whole picture, much of it was drudgery. Eventually, I realized I couldn’t hack such a life and I went back to school for writing. But the memory of the pleasure of being preoccupied by a pure artistic pursuit remains.

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    Becky Ann Baker, Frances McDormand and Estelle Parsons played the leading roles in the Manhattan Theatre Club’s 2011 production of “Good People.” / Photo from www.thelmagazine.com

    I’m happy to bring back some of that happy countenance when I plunge myself into a play at a local community theater, as I do now with a part in David Lindsay-Abaire’s “Good People” for OutCast Productions in Langley. I often tell my friends that I’m happiest when I’m creating something; acting is my anti-depressant of sorts and I’m grateful to playwrights who give women such juicy parts. I play Margie Walsh, a blue-collar, middle-aged woman who has lived all her life in South Boston, and who has lost yet another job and now faces eviction. There’s more to it than that, but for now my main goal is to memorize, get the dialect right and think about how a woman who has spent her entire life trying to stay one step ahead of debt collectors would walk, sit, laugh, stave off misery and endure. Oh joy, oh process!

    Hopefully I will add my own bit of positive artistic something to the world as do those I admire most.

    (“Good People” opens May 9 at the Black Box Theater at the fairgrounds. Visit www.outcastproductions.net for more info.)

    Patricia Duff is a freelance writer and journalist, seller of art and sometime actor. 

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  • Duff ’n Stuff | It’s been a pleasure being an arts editor for this community

    Duff ’n Stuff | It’s been a pleasure being an arts editor for this community

    BY PATRICIA DUFF
    Jan. 8, 2014 

    It’s always hard to say goodbye to your baby, and as editor of this startup, it kind of feels like I’m letting go of a child.

    Nobody appreciates the artistic community of Whidbey Island more than I do, so it’s hard for me to have to leave my role as editor of Whidbey Life Magazine. As is so often the case with non-profit companies, a lack of funds means my contract has come to an end at WLM.

    Women Thinking
    A.E. Marty’s “Woman Thinking.”

    The past 19 months of getting the online edition off the ground and onto the screens of my fellow island arts lovers has been a rewarding challenge, and I will miss the day-to-day excitement of watching the publication grow. But it will continue to grow if you keep reading, so keep that up!

    Thanks to the magnanimous support of you readers, Whidbey Life Magazine will see its first glossy print edition this coming spring, and I look forward to being one of its contributors, and also to continuing my role as one of the WLM bloggers.

    Other changes also include dropping the “members only” model. Whidbey Life Magazine now accepts all Whidbey Island arts-related news and events, not just those from members.  Look for the “community arts info” submission form on the site this month.

    I have to say that nothing has given me more pleasure than hearing the kind and positive responses of WLM readers when I run into you around the island. I appreciate the encouragement and support that has always been shown towards me, and I have loved every minute of writing the stories that illuminate the creativity that is inherent in this community.

    L'Adieu Dans La Nuit
    “L’Adieu Dans La Nuit” by A. E. Marty.

    It’s been a pleasure and I thank you for your part in making this all happen. Thanks, too, to all the writers, bloggers and WLM team for all your hard work; you’ve all made me look really good!

    Happy New Year, everybody, and keep your eyes on Whidbey Life Magazine in 2014!

    From the heart,

    Patricia Duff  

  • Duff ‘n Stuff welcomes a taste of Whidbey Island Nourishes’ positive change

    Duff ‘n Stuff welcomes a taste of Whidbey Island Nourishes’ positive change

    BY PATRICIA DUFF
    Nov. 24, 2013

    When I received this email update from Mary Fisher, president and founder of Whidbey Island Nourishes (WIN), I felt compelled to share it with readers. It’s an encouraging look at what some well-organized and sensible efforts by a community can do to turn the tide of malnourishment in our communities.

    Six years ago, Fisher was shocked to learn that 60 children were living in the woods on South Whidbey. Fisher asked friends,  “We have to make sure they have enough food! Will you help me cook?”  The answer was a resounding, “Yes. Of course.”

    Today WIN has more than 100 volunteers and is making more than 1,500 meals a month, working with schools and other community organizations to make sure South Whidbey’s kids are getting enough nutrition.

    Fisher wrote about a Nov. 14 event called “Taste of Whidbey” at Langley Middle School at which 7th graders dished up potatoes they grew themselves, and some other locally grown fare, to their fellow students. Fisher adds photos to help tell this hopeful story of a community coming together to make sure everybody gets the nourishment (and education about nourishment) they need. (Fisher’s commentary is italicized.)

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    WIN collaborated with Cary Peterson, who created the vegetable garden at the Good Cheer Foodbank in Langley and who organized the fresh vegetables brought from Whidbey farmers Annie Jesperson and Nathaniel of Deep Harvest Farm.
    Potatoes grown by the 7th grader were roasted by Karen Korbelik of Good Cheer Foodbank kitchen and then served by the students.
    The kids also served locally-grown carrot sticks and the very popular kale salad, with WIN volunteers Trisha Brigham, Barb Schiltz, Susan Bennett, Cate Nelson, Dorit Zingarelli, Sandy Menashe and Margaret Andersen, who washed, and finely chopped, chopped, chopped, sliced and diced the ingredients.
    Seventh graders from South Whidbey were proud to serve the potatoes they grew, as well as the kale salad and carrot sticks. The table also showed the produce fresh from the garden, so kids would learn what it looked like before getting diced and sliced.
    Seventh graders dish up the good stuff at the Taste of Whidbey.
    It was Peterson (in pink cap), who created the vegetable garden at the Good Cheer Foodbank. She is presently building gardens at the schools on South Whidbey.
    Peterson talks to WIN organizer Schlitz, while farmers Talbot and Jesperson look on.
    Our community is truly blessed to have a dynamo like Cary. Mix her with one of WIN’s committed dynamos, Barb Schlitz, and you are bound to get the most nutritious food possible.
    Deep Harvest Farm also provided the fabulous kale that was the rock star of the day!
     Jesperson and Talbot bring their Deep Harvest Farm produce to the Bayview Farmers Market and other markets in the summer and fall.

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    South Whidbey Record reporter Celeste Erickson was on hand to interview folks. She interviews a young man who gave up a reward of a Haagen Dazs bar for a third helping of kale salad.

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    Seventh grade students looking on are tickled by their fellow student’s celebrity status involving the kale salad.
    It was such a rich collaboration with the teachers, staff and students of the Langley Middle School, “Cary the connector,” Deep Harvest Farm, Karen at Good Cheer, who helped cook, and our wonderful WIN volunteers who prepared the food.
    It’s just delicious to think about all our Whidbey kids getting fresh nutritious food.  And right from our own back yard! Nothing quite as delightful as having a kid come up for third serving of kale! The staff and students were clamoring for the recipe for the salad and dressing.
    Many thanks to Dorit Zingarelli, a  WIN board member, designer of all our lovely invites and devoted to good food for kids; for taking the lead on pulling the WIN team together to chop, chop, chop the kale, apples, radishes and calendula blossoms.
    Mary Fisher  
    Founder and president of Whidbey Island Nourishes
    www.whidbeyislandnourishes.org
  • Duff ’n Stuff ─ Who knew poetry can make corporate leaders better at their jobs?

    Duff ’n Stuff ─ Who knew poetry can make corporate leaders better at their jobs?

    BY PATRICIA DUFF, Oct. 18, 2013

    Poetry can make you better at business.

    I did not know this, but it doesn’t surprise me.

    I read an article recently that talked about how high-pressured business leaders, who need to deal with the chaos in their extremely dynamic environments, can improve their ability to better conceptualize the world ­— and communicate it through presentations or writing — by reading poetry. Reading and writing poetry can exercise one’s capacity to communicate more clearly to others.

    Apparently, the creative capabilities spurred by poetry can help executives keep their organizations entrepreneurial, help them to glean imaginative solutions to problems, and to steer through problematic environments, when good ’ole, previously reliable data alone doesn’t help them.

    I’m so happy to hear that there is this glimmer of light slipping under the doors of corporate conference rooms. I have so many ideas for suggested readings of poets! How could anyone possibly narrow the field, when there are so many good poems to read and so many corporate executives to help? (I love poetry. My favorite moment of every weekday is at 3 p.m. when Garrison Keillor chooses a poem to read for the Writers Almanac on NPR.)

    Here’s one by Billy Collins that might be good for the harried executive:

    I Ask You

    Johannes Vermeer, The Milkmaid (1658–1660) (447x500)
    There is poetry in Johannes Vermeer’s “The Milkmaid,” painted between 1658 and 1660.

    It gives me time to think
    about all that is going on outside—
    leaves gathering in corners,
    lichen greening the high grey rocks,
    while over the dunes the world sails on,
    huge, ocean-going, history bubbling in its wake.

    But beyond this table
    there is nothing that I need,
    not even a job that would allow me to row to work,
    or a coffee-colored Aston Martin DB4
    with cracked green leather seats.

    No, it’s all here,
    the clear ovals of a glass of water,
    a small crate of oranges, a book on Stalin,
    not to mention the odd snarling fish
    in a frame on the wall,
    and the way these three candles—
    each a different height—
    are singing in perfect harmony.

    So forgive me
    if I lower my head now and listen
    to the short bass candle as he takes a solo
    while my heart
    thrums under my shirt—
    frog at the edge of a pond—
    and my thoughts fly off to a province
    made of one enormous sky
    and about a million empty branches.

    How about this one by Walt Whitman for that old sexist male exec?

    A Song of Joys

    O ripen’d joy of womanhood! O happiness at last!
    I am more than eighty years of age, I am the most venerable mother,
    How clear is my mind – how all people draw nigh to me!
    What attractions are these beyond any before? what bloom more
    than the bloom of youth?
    What beauty is this that descends upon me and rises out of me?

    Necessary to any clattering board room of corporate chaos is certainly Naomi Shihab Nye, who calls herself the “wandering poet” and puts words together in a way like nobody else. Here’s her take on the most appealing kind of fame.

    Lorinda's Hay Moon over Whidbey (500x381)
    Lorinda Kay’s photograph of the “Hay Moon” over Whidbey Island in July 2013 is a kind of poetry itself.

    Famous

    The river is famous to the fish.

    The loud voice is famous to silence,
    which knew it would inherit the earth
    before anybody said so.  

    The cat sleeping on the fence is famous to the birds
    watching him from the birdhouse.  

    The tear is famous, briefly, to the cheek.  

    The idea you carry close to your bosom
    is famous to your bosom.  

    The boot is famous to the earth,
    more famous than the dress shoe,
    which is famous only to floors.

    The bent photograph is famous to the one who carries it
    and not at all famous to the one who is pictured.  

    I want to be famous to shuffling men
    who smile while crossing streets,
    sticky children in grocery lines,
    famous as the one who smiled back. 

    I want to be famous in the way a pulley is famous,
    or a buttonhole, not because it did anything spectacular,
    but because it never forgot what it could do.

    High on my list of recommended reading for conflicted corporate leaders would be William Butler Yeats, whose poetry has often led me away from a certain chaos in my own mind to a place of light. It was Yeats who once remarked that ”poetry is born out of the quarrel with oneself.” I think he meant that writing poetry is one way to give yourself some clarity; to divine from your own mind what’s essential and important.

    Here’s a Yeats poem that might remind executive leaders that some things are more important than business; that how you love will be remembered, rather than all those deals you cut. Life is short, corporate dude.

    When You are Old

    Pablo Picasso Old Guitarist (417x500)
    Pablo Picasso’s “Old Guitarist” is a painting that, to me, is also poetry.

    How many loved your moments of glad grace,
    And loved your beauty with love false or true,
    But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
    And loved the sorrows of your changing face;

    And bending down beside the glowing bars,
    Murmur, a little sadly, how Love fled
    And paced upon the mountains overhead
    And hid his face amid a crowd of stars.

    So, says the article, leaders and their colleagues might find themselves more hopeful and flush with purpose if they take some time to write and read poetry. They might even find their work infused with more surprise, meaning and beauty.

    The thought of corporate America sitting quietly reading Yeats or Nye is utterly satisfying to me and gives me some sort of fresh hope.

    From my most wishful heart,
    Patricia Duff